I once said in a previous post that being inside my head can be a dangerous place to be in my The Overthinker post. I have a hard time getting through this world right now, and what I have a hard time with is the social dynamic now on how we treat each other over the most meaningless things. Much like not feeling comfortable in my own skin. All the anger, the frustration, the constant state of confusion that no one knows what to believe or how to act or just be as something simple to have a neutral opinion. All this shit you see on a constant basis on the news or social media. How is any of this supposed to help any navigate through this world and find their purpose. It is like right and wrong have been tossed in the trash like week old leftovers.

Modern society has come to a point where people make you feel obligated to take one side or another with no middle ground. You have to label yourself with something that “defines” you and sub-labels to support it. That’s one of the biggest reasons throughout my life, and I don’t agree with living life like that. I have felt like an outsider because I never chose a side politically or socially. I’ll explain why.

I don’t know what happened to us as people when it came to treating one another. Maybe it was the invention of social media that made people brave to say whatever they wanted without fear of getting punched in the face for it. Were we this crazy before all this age of mass media, or did we go because of all this mass media exposure? The crazy finally now have a platform to expose what their version of what “truth” is to brainwash vulnerable and impressionable people to gain more sheep for the heard until the shepherd tells you to drink the Kool-Aid.

A couple of months ago, I got into an argument with a guy about this joke of a political system America has now, and I know I said in my Introduction post I was not going to touch politics or religion but politics was the subject that was brought up on how we treat each other over something so trivial and I speak socially not politically, and how this individual acted is exactly why I don’t talk about those subjects. It started with the question of which side I choose, and I simply I’m not going to answer that because that never leads to anything good as we have seen on all the news outlets and social media. Let me be very clear, I don’t choose a side politically, I never did. The only thing I’ll claim in that regard is independence. I think choosing red or blue defeats the purpose of us being “united.” Hence, the United States of America. I answered with “I don’t choose one” because I believe in individual independence. As I said, he started to become upset, saying, “Well, you have to choose a side,” as I reply with “no, I don’t because that defeats the purpose of free thought.” The debate became more and more heated the more I disagreed with taking a side. I don’t like Trump. I don’t like Biden. I don’t like any of them, and that’s my freedom to feel as such.

It’s simple why I don’t take a side. When there is an argument about an issue, there are always two sides to the debate. You have one side saying their argument, and you have the other side voicing their argument. What I was taught in school by great teachers has taught me this important lesson. Hear out both sides of the argument and work out together what the best solution is. That’s what I was taught how to solve a problem. I’ll be honest, I don’t have the best education. I graduated from a continuation school that was public. I have no college or private education, but my knowledge came from the real world, incredible people and teachers whom I had interacted with throughout my life teaching me that not everything can be black and white. There is a grey area to a lot of issues, but unfortunately, people can’t seem to grasp that concept. There are some things I agree with on both sides and some things I don’t. The human brain and spirit were not meant to be lived by just one label and live by the rules of said label and lifestyle. We are an ever-evolving species as we age, things you supported 10 years ago may not be the things you support now so the belief that you are going to live a certain way by a certain social and political label is just ridiculous and you’re contradicting yourself from the very beginning.

This is a tough world to navigate socially and politically right now. You either have to be one thing or another to be accepted. If you’re not for it, then you’re against it. There is no grey area to the problem. Well, that defeats the purpose of an open mind.
Examples:

• If you’re not a democrat, then you are anti republican.
• If you’re not republican, then your anti democrat.
• If you dont support the LGBTQA+ community, then you are against it.
• If you don’t mention your pronouns, then you are anti non-binary or whatever it is.
• If you support abortion than you’re a baby killer.
• blah blah blah, the lists go on and on.

All these to me are just more groups looking for more sheep to expand their heard, and these are not black and white issues. These issues have a massive grey area that no one sees it, and if you’re an INDIVIDUAL, that does not want to be part of these groups, then it’s you that is their enemy. I do not agree with that mentality. There is a fine line between supporting their cause and being a part of it. I do not agree with the notion that if you’re not a part of any of these groups I just mentioned, then it is you that is the enemy. That defeats the purpose and the concept of individualism. It’s a form of supremacy in the way you are forcing your ideas upon others to join your group. It is showing arrogance with the falsehood that you are always right, and the other side is always wrong. That sounds pretty closed-minded to me. You see it all over social media on a regular basis. Don’t get me wrong, I will discuss any type of issue in a civilized conversation no matter who or what you are. The one thing that I will disagree with if the conversation becomes a heated argument while trying to force feed me your ideas and theories when I don’t want them, and I already live my life a certain way when I’m already very content and happy with the way things are going for me. Why would I listen to your ideas and theories when it feels like you’re trying to recruit me. No, I like my nomad lifestyle. I like being a mutual friend to different types of people and groups. I will be cool with you and be your friend and you will have my support, but I will not join your group or organization, and if you’re a real friend, then you would understand and respect that concept.

I put the word “individual” on all caps in the previous paragraph for a reason, and I’ll explain why. The concept of individuality is not to be limited to one way and one lifestyle. For example, would you want to get to know other people who only share your ideas, values, and morals? Sounds boring, right? Yeah, it does feel really boring to be with some people who are just like me. In today’s social dynamic, many people can’t grasp the concept that because you don’t agree with something, it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends. Being a friend is accepting the differences as an individual. I have friends to this day that we don’t agree on some issues, and that’s fine because at the end of the day, if I need help with something, I know who to call. The thing is to respect our individual differences and that concepts has been tossed out the fucking window a long with the concept of mutual respect and common decency.

Don’t get me wrong, this is not a hate post, or I think I’m better than anyone else’s post because I know anyone who reads this will jump to that conclusion. Relax, this is a post you actually have to read and analyze. This is not some 15-second tiktok clip when some kid feeds his conspiracy theories to mentally vulnerable people. It’s sad that information is processed like that now because that platform is infused with so much trash that all it’s doing is throwing more fuel on this socially chaotic firestorm. Read closely, and if you don’t get it the first time, read it again.

In conclusion, I am no one special. I am made of flesh and bone just like anyone else but take into consideration that a human being is not just one thing. No one is just liberal or conservative. Chris Rock told a joke back in the day about this. “Just be a fucking person, no person is just one thing. When it comes to murder, I’m conservative. When it comes to prostitution, I’m liberal, ” and even it was meant to be a joke it made perfect sense as a metaphor to not limiting your to just one label, one lifestyle or one mentality. Just don’t force feed your ideas when they are not wanted. That’s when things get ugly socially. This Insanity needs to stop, and I think we can all agree on that notion. We need more leaders to show an example of that, and as far as I can tell, there are none, not Trump, not Biden, none. So you just have to think for yourself and understand what behavior is right and what is wrong. Read books that help put things in perspective and talk to people in reality with experience. More importantly, talk to people who tell you things you don’t want to hear because a real friend will call you out on your bullshit. I always said, “Educate, dont belittle.” Stay away from the media. Find interest in something. I am currently doing this myself, and it has been helping me immensely. Just live and let live and mind your own business. Life will get much easier.

Thank you for reading this long schpeel. I highly appreciate it.